When teens are in a
relationship, one person wants to have sex although the other one does not.
Again, what matters most differs from person to person. Regardless of the
situation, the differences can place stress on a relationship. Do not
compromise what you think is right.
As with almost
every other major decision in life, it is important not to give your power away
to someone else no matter what they may tell you. They may say to you “if you
truly love me you would have sex with me.” They are looking to satisfy their
own feelings and urges about sex. If someone says that not having sex after
doing other kinds of fooling around will cause him or her physical pain, this
is also a sign that that person is thinking only of himself or herself. If you
feel you should have sex because you are afraid of losing that person, this
person might not be the right one for you. Sex should be an expression of love,
not something a person feels that he or she must do. If a boyfriend or
girlfriend truly loves you, he or she will not push or pressure you to do
something you do not believe in or are not ready for yet.
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