It is important for
the woman to be patient with her partner just as he is with her. If you find
you are unable to achieve an erection after spending time trying to different
methods you may want to talk to your doctor about possibly having an erectile
dysfunction.
Heart disease: this can be very disconcerting for the man
because he does not want to over-exert himself with the sexual act. If you have
had a heart attack or have had heart surgery, you might wonder when you can
fully enjoy pleasuring your partner and being pleasured in return. The rule is
if you can walk up two flights of stairs without difficulty, your heart is
ready for the exercise in sexual gratification.
Positions to try: be creative with different positions and keep
trying until you and your partner find a position that benefits both of you.
The “spoon position” is where you both lie on your sides and the woman has her
back to the man – just like a pair of spoons – this can be very intimate and
enjoyable. Another option is the person whose back may not be as strong can by
lying down and the stronger partner kneeling above them. You could also take
turns with this position giving each a rest from being on top.
Entering menopause
and aging does not mean that sex has come to an end you are no longer able to
enjoy yourselves. Quite the opposite, you now have more time to communicate,
experiment with different positions, and completely enjoy your sexual
encounters.
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