partner says
"no" to something, accept the limit and gracefully and move on to
something else. Rude or abusive behavior are not appreciated or tolerated.
8. Don’t confuse
fantasy with reality. You meet an incredibly desirable person and, in your
mind, you just know you would have mind-blowing romantic intimacy together. You
are lucky if you do. Do not ruin your chances with them by assuming that YOUR
fantasy obligates THEM to fulfill it. Instead, feel them out – are they getting
the same vibes? Does your idea turn them on as much as it does you? Talk it
over before trying to talk them into it.
9. Set limits on both
sides and stick to them. Communicate clearly about what you like and dislike,
what words or fantasies are exciting and which ones are not. Remember that what
is hot to one person could be like a cold shower to another. If your partner
lets you know that he or she does not want to act out a particular, fantasy or
engage in a particular act, do not try to force them into it. You can always
find someone else who is more compatible with you and will be delighted to
indulge you.
10. Be polite. Some of
the sexiest words in any language are "Please," "thank
you," and "you’re welcome." No matter how raunchy the situation,
politeness shows that you respect your partners and value their company, and it
makes you look classy. Your positive energy will make them trust you more and
grow more open to trying new and exciting things with you.
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