Sex
After Childbirth - How to Get Some Oomph Back into your Sex Life
There is no doubt
that childbirth is an experience that brings with it joy, fear, and
unconditional love. Many couples are not prepared for the decline in intimacy
that occurs after a woman gives birth. There are many reasons for this, but
before examining these reasons, it is very important to remember that you need
to communicate with your partner. Your partner may feel that you are rejecting
them and paying more attention to the baby. Tell them how you are feeling and
the things you are afraid of and why. Communication is the first step towards
rekindling your passion. Many couples find
that they are exhausted with a new child in the house. Between getting up
frequently during the night and working during the day, when couples finally
set down to spend time together they usually fall asleep. Most of the time they
fall asleep without a word between them until the next feeding. During this
time of transition, words and cuddling will provide a great sense of
togetherness, even if it is when you are both completely exhausted. During this
time do not turn away from each other, draw closer. When it comes to sex, you
do not have to engage in full penetration. Both you and your partner can
benefit greatly from the stimulation of each other’s touch. After giving birth,
a woman’s doctor will examine her and tell her she is now able to have
intercourse. However, she may still feel uncomfortable doing so. After giving
birth, many women experience vaginal dryness. In addition, their breasts leak
milk whether they are breastfeeding or not. A woman may also be self-conscious
about her body since it may not have the same appearance as her pre-pregnancy
shape. Not everything returns to normal instantly after giving birth. The
woman’s body goes through many changes to prepare and give birth and will go
through several more to return to pre-pregnancy stage. Communicating with your
partner is essential during this time. For the woman, childbirth is quite
traumatic both physically and psychologically. If you witnessed
the childbirth, you might be amazed how a child came through the vaginal canal.
The immense amount of stretching that her vagina took, as well as her uterus,
needing time to shrink back down to its original size. This takes time and will
not happen the moment she comes back from the hospital. Along with the physical
changes that she went through, the body is healing and returned to normal
hormone levels, as well. During the next six months, it will be best if you and
your spouse talk about and approach sex calmly and lovingly. Regardless of how
many times you tell her how sexy she looks, she will give you a look that tells
you she thinks you are insane. Patience is paramount during this time. Generally a woman
should not consider participating in intercourse at least until her postnatal
examine. If she is still bleeding at this time, she should wait until the
bleeding has subsided. The post-natal exam is normally scheduled for six-weeks
after giving birth. Even if she is given the “all clear,” her vagina may still
be swollen or sore and may not lubricate well.
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